Showing posts with label homosexual. Show all posts
Showing posts with label homosexual. Show all posts

Thursday, December 29, 2011

A Letter to Amazon.com

I was checking out my Twitter feed today and I stumbled upon an article on Huffington Post that really upset me.   It talked about a 2012 calendar that basically spews hatred every month of the year... and that Amazon.com stocks the calendar. 

As you may know from some of my previous posts, homophobia really pisses me off so I fired off this email to the Amazon.com customer service account:
Hello,

It has today come to my attention that you are selling a 2012 calendar titled "I'm Not Gay, I'm Just a Sissy" (http://www.amazon.ca/Im-Not-Gay-Just-Sissy/dp/1466226641).

This disturbs and disgusts me deeply and I do not wish to have any association with a company that would sell a product of hatred, such as this calendar.

Please tell me that Amazon plans to remove this from their catalog and issue an apology to the LGTB community for their poor judgement in stocking this item in the first place.  If this is something Amazon does not intend to do then can you please instruct me as to the steps I must take to have my registration removed from your site.  I will not be making any purchases, nor directing my loved ones to the site through my wishlist to make purchases, with a company that advocates hatred and homophobia and, more disturbingly, hopes to make a dollar off of it.

Thank you,
 

Mindi 

If you have an account with Amazon and this upsets you as much as it does me, then I encourage you to send a similar message to Amazon.  Tell them, through your money, that you will not tolerate a company that hopes to make money off of intolerance.  

Friday, September 30, 2011

Gay in the Middle East?

The other day, my mother posed this question to me:  "If you were a corporate psychiatrist and you just got a job at [major corporation] which required you to work in Qatar, would you be openly gay while there?  Would it be safe?"

I thought about it for a few seconds and this was my response:  "In an ideal world, yes; you can be openly gay in Qatar and not have to fear persecution or worse.  However, we're not living in an ideal world, so there are a few things that need to be considered before answering that question.  First, and most importantly, in this equation: DoesQKatar adhere to Sharia Law?  If they do (which is pretty much a certainty), how rigidly do they follow the Laws?  The next thing to consider is whether or not American owned companies (or companies/corporations that aren't based in the Middle East) and their employees working in Qatar are subject to Sharia Law."

For those who are unaware of Sharia Law and it's importance to those of the Islamic faith, it is the code of conduct and or religious law of Islam.  The punishment for acts of sodomy and homosexual activities in Sharia Law varies in different Muslim-majority countries: in some, it's punishable by death; in others, it's illegal and will result in varying sentences; in others still, it's not illegal at all.

My mother and I continued discussing this back and forth, as both of us are staunch supporters of LGBT equality.  She expressed concerns that if being open threatens your very life, then maybe it's best to stay closeted until you're back in a land that won't actively persecute based solely on your orientation.  Sadly, there are few countries (if any at all) where you can live openly without someone taking issue with your orientation and making it your problem.  I'd like to believe that it's easier here in Canada; after all, here you can get married!  Dan Savage himself got hitched here.  Not being a member of the LGTB community, however, I can't say with absolute certainty that living openly in Canada is all that much easier than living openly in England, USA or Germany.  I do believe it's better and easier than in most Muslim-majority countries, however I digress. 

My counterpoint to my mother's (legitimate) personal safety concern was this: People who lived openly in the 1950's, 1960's and 1970's in Canada and the US (just as a couple of examples. I'm sure this holds true to many other progressive countries) did so under great risk to their personal safety.  Them doing so however, made it possible for people to live openly for the last 20 or so years and it keeps getting better.  They were the Rosa Parks', the Jackie Robinson's, the Elizabeth Stanton's of the LGBT communities - and many of them remain nameless today (to those not within the LGTB community at any rate) with the exception, perhaps, of Harvey Milk and Freddie Mercury.

This psychiatrist is certainly not the only gay person living in Qatar.  If this man, coming from another country is able to live openly gay, and not have to face any recriminations then it may just provide strength for Qatari men and women to continue or start to live openly.  It may provide them with the strength and encouragement for people, gay or straight, to fight for rights (not more rights, because there aren't any right now), acceptance and equality.  Someone has to make the first (second, third, four hundredth) move.  It certainly won't be an easy fight.  The sad reality of it is, fighting for LGBT rights in the Middle East may cost some people their very lives. 

I dream of a world for my child where anyone, from any country, of any religion, creed, colour or orientation is treated with the same amount of respect.
("I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: "We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men are created equal.")

I dream of a world for my child where people who have battled through homophobic based persecution can now live in harmony with those who once hated them.
("I have a dream that one day on the red hills of Georgia the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners will be able to sit down together at a table of brotherhood.")

I dream of a world for my child where he knows only of war and the fight for equal rights for all is something he reads about in history books.
("I have a dream that one day even the state of Mississippi, a desert state, sweltering with the heat of injustice and oppression, will be transformed into an oasis of freedom and justice.") 

I dream of a world for my child where he can go to school without fear of bullying.  Where LGTBQ kids, as well as straight kids, can walk through the halls with their heads held high.
("I have a dream that my four children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.") 

I dream of a world where we don't have to wait for this.
("I have a dream today.")

I dream of a world for my child where politicians don't spout words of hate and fight to demoralize, deminish and dehumanize LGTB people.  Where they can work side by side with one another and promote peace.
("I have a dream that one day the state of Alabama, whose governor's lips are presently dripping with the words of interposition and nullification, will be transformed into a situation where little black boys and black girls will be able to join hands with little white boys and white girls and walk together as sisters and brothers.")

I dream of a world where we don't have to wait for this.

People living in fear because of who they are, and who they love really bothers me.  When will it stop?  

Monday, July 18, 2011

I really don't understand homophobia

Seriously.

I really and truly don't understand how anyone can so blithely hate people who are homosexual.  It makes about as much sense to me as hating someone because they have red hair, or have green eyes.  Okay, maybe I get the red hair hatred.  Bloody gingers, anyway![i]

I mean, it's just such a waste of energy, and for those who stand behind their religion to defend their hatred, it seems to be in complete defiance of most religious tenets.  More specifically, the Judeo-Christian religion. 

When I self-identified as a Christian, I was always taught that you must love others as Jesus loves you and to always follow the Golden Rule.  I could never think of Jesus being the type of person who would advocate hatred the way modern day churches and religious organizations are today.  I know whenever I hear of people beating a gay[ii] person (to death at times) just because they had the strength and courage to accept and love who they are my heart hurts and I truly believe that if you are a person of faith, your heart should hurt too.  

The think about homophobia that makes no sense to me is that no truly valid[iii] argument can be made in support of it.  It's not as though people of the LGTBQ community have started wars, have committed or have attempted to commit genocide, have actively persecuted heterosexuals, or have fought to take away rights of heterosexuals.  In certain (very extreme) cases, a valid argument can be made to make specific instances of racism (or nationalism) excusable[iv] but I just don't see why or how someone can think it's okay to be homophobic.  

Dictionary.com defines homophobia as an unreasoning fear of or antipathy toward homosexuals and homosexuality.  The way I see it actively denying rights to homosexuals, throwing out hurtful homophobic slurs, and/or thinking that they are an abomination makes you someone who is homophobic.  If you defend the above actions or other actions against homosexuals, you are saying that homophobia is excusable.

To say homophobia is excusable is to say that it's right for people to kill someone for being gay.

To say homophobia is excusable is to say that it's okay that children are killing themselves because of the bullying they receive as a result of being gay or being perceived as gay.

To say homophobia is excusable is to say that it's okay for your child who may be gay or questioning to be afraid to come out to you or talk to you about it.  You are saying it is okay for your child to fear you.

Can you imagine what that must be like?  Your teenaged (or older or younger) child is questioning whether or not s/he's gay and they are terrified that they are because they see how much you hate gays.  They see how afraid you are of people who are homosexuals and how you say nothing but negative things about gays and they are petrified that all of that hatred will be directed towards them.  In my opinion, if your child is ever afraid of you, you have failed them as a parent.  Your most important directive in life as a parent is to make sure they always feel safe, protected and loved by you, and your hatred of gays means (to them, at least) that you hate your child. 

I don't ever want to hate my child.
 
The last thing I'll say is what in the hell does what other people do have to do with you??  How is someone being in a happy, healthy homosexual relationship impacting your life in any way, shape or form?  Heck, how is someone being in an unhappy, unhealthy homosexual relationship impacting your life in any way?  Do you think omnivores in their households are somehow affected by what vegans do in their households?  Of course not.  That would be silly.


[i]  I kid! I kid!

[ii] For shorthand, I’m going to be referring to those in the LGTBQ community as gay, though really what I’m saying refers to anyone in the community.          

[iii]  I personally don’t believe that arguments starting with “But the Bible said...” as a valid argument.  People (including religious clerics) defy theological laws/rules every day (Do you shave your beard? Do you enjoy a good pork chop?) so the Leviticus and other Biblical arguments are easily counter argued.   Also, since not everyone identifies as a Christian (or other religion that “bans” homosexuals), using the Bible as a means to discriminate against non-Christians is illogical.

[iv]  To be clear, I don’t think racism is ever excusable.  I’m just saying that if you really wanted to, and you were referencing very specific circumstances (e.g., certain historical events), an argument can be made in favour of it.  Say, if you were in a debate class or something.